FATE sounds fatalistic, doesn’t it?
DESTINY sounds like we humans may have some control over what happens.
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This time last week I was SEW excited to host the first of several live events I have planned to celebrate my Sew Like A Pro™ 10th anniversary.
Today, I am nursing wounds of efforts and love unreceived. Not just unreceived, but oppressed. Squashed. Tainted. Yet again.
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Here’s the story:
Last weekend, everything for the DRESS SUCCESS #2 Masterclass class fell into place quickly.
Three students volunteered to share a dress they made. The promotional artwork looked great. I was excited about the class because I love teaching live, and because I love showcasing dresses my students made. It’s a match made in Heaven.
I sent out the first email to over 2,900 people on my email list. I expected the usual daily sign-ups, confident 100 or so would participate in the class.
Twelve hours went by and two people signed up …. for a FREE or DONATION class.
The next email received no better response.
I plummeted in disappointment and outrage against all the energies that were working against me succeeding, and against me assisting others in succeeding.
After six days of marketing, only 17 people had enrolled – half of which were sewing school students.
I was devastated. Just when I thought I was going to have a string of live events this year, the first one fizzled out with horror.
But no matter happens to me, I can and will protect the integrity of my school and all of my amazing students.
So I canceled my first ever event in ten years. I will try again later when all of us can be more appreciated and more free.
And then I battled another round of disappointment, despair, outrage and helplessness against the “unseen” who foiled my plans.
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So which it is: FATE or DESTINY?
What stops me – and so many other women – from thriving, from feeling good, from being the comfortable, confident, successful women we know we can and should be?
I know the answer, but it’s too unpleasant to talk about here.
I run a sewing school; I’m not prepared to be a spiritual teacher at this point in my life.
I feel empowered helping you ,and everyone on my email list, feel more confident in who you are and how you look in real life or on the dance floor/skate rink.
I think that’s enough. I believe I am enough. I believe you are enough.
I believe what I offer via Sew Like A Pro™ is an amazing way to help myself and to serve the world with my natural strengths.
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I reminded myself FATE sounds fatalistic. DESTINY sounds like I may have some control over what happens to me and my life. How could I change this situation, if only in my mind?
I took a bunch of deep breaths. I cried in frustration. I screamed and cursed at everything and everyone I cannot see with my human eyes.
And I finally made myself say these phrases until I felt more calm and able to continue planning what I hope will be a magnificent life.
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It is my right to have a magnificent life.
I choose to never ever be doomed by someone else’s fate.
I choose for my destiny to be one of love, joy and prosperity.
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I would love to say “may you never experience the sense of oppression and lack of control that I felt”. But I know you have. All I can do is to offer things that have helped me, hoping they help you also.
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Together, we can create a better world.
Together and individually, we can choose to fight the good fight.
Individually, we can choose our destiny instead of being swallowed, chewed and spit out by “fate”.
One drop of hope at a time. One smile at a time. One tingle of love at a time.
We can do it.
We can all thrive and succeed with ease and grace, in comfort and in style. (That’s one of my new favorite phrases 🙂
Here’s to overcoming fate and creating a delicious destiny!
Teresa Sigmon
creator of all things Sew Like A Pro™ for dancers and skaters, and Goodness For You.
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